“Certainly the most destructive vice if you like, that a person can have. More than pride, which is supposedly the number one of the cardinal sins – is self pity. Self pity is the worst possible emotion anyone can have. And the most destructive. It is, to slightly paraphrase what Wilde said about hatred, and I think actually hatred’s a subset of self pity and not the other way around – ‘It destroys everything around it, except itself .’
Self pity will destroy relationships, it’ll destroy anything that’s good, it will fulfill all the prophecies it makes and leave only itself. And it’s so simple to imagine that one is hard done by, and that things are unfair, and that one is underappreciated, and that if only one had had a chance at this, only one had had a chance at that, things would have gone better, you would be…
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If you conducted a survey, for what makes people happy, the majority would probably say ‘money’, makes a difference to their happiness. Really? Money can only satisfy material need, right? The more you earn, the more you spend. We live in a world of consumerism, always chasing the next item of technology, the latest must-have’s from the beauty pages, including all the foods and/or supplements that are packed with antioxidants, 99% fat free, no cholesterol, adequate protein or carbohydrates for a balanced diet, and don’t forget the gym. Aerobic exercise definitely releases the dopamine (neurotransmitter) required to make you feel great, according to the ‘happy’ movie. Sometimes, the more ‘simple’ your existence, the happier you are. I can only remember one holiday, (8 years ago) when I turned off my mobile device, did not wear a watch nor care about the time or my schedules, it was truely euphoric. Happiness is partly genetic, intentional and environmental. Listen to nature. Volunteer in the community. Try ‘laughing yoga’. Or just breathe, and look around.
“Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions.” – Dalai Lama